Like any other relationship that I engage in, the mind is the most important aspect of personality when it comes to friendship. If I cannot hold an intellectual, or simply deep/ hypothetical, conversation with you, then I am not interested in talking to you. This typically leads to lack of communication, boredom, or misunderstanding. Eventually, though, it leads to withered connections from lack of use.
I can honestly say that I really don’t have more than a handful of what I would consider “close” friends. I have more friends and acquaintances than anything else. Above all, most of my friends are online which makes a genuine connection less possible. Yet, it seems when something is amiss in life – it is the online friends that are there to help. Weird.
Being that I have Asperger’s, I am a very introspective person. I take a great amount of time to look within versus simply looking into the mirror. My mind and mannerisms are different, finicky, picky, and utterly annoying at times. This means, it is hard to find individuals that are okay with the amount of weird that comes with being my friend.
I mean come on here. My favorite color is yellow, I like mountain goats, octopi are probably the coolest animals on earth, I prefer documentaries over regular TV, I haven’t listened to mainstream music in … well, my whole life really. I love hiking, adrenaline, and I don’t eat normal food! I am more sensitive than a moth’s wing, and strong as an old Buick chassis. I am not for the faint of heart, because you will get confounded or disgusted, annoyed or elated. I am strange. I feel okay with my strangeness though, which is why it is of the utmost importance to find friends who can vibe on the same level of strangeness as myself.
Answering the question: The mind.